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American Christians who are most preoccupied with sexual morality tend focus on homosexuality, pornography, sex before marriage, etc. Except for the Catholic Church, we don't hear much about divorce and remarriage (and even American Catholic leaders don't say much that is covered in the media). Why? Some Christians do argue against divorce, but even they don't claim that remarriage is a sin. According to the Biblical texts, though, it probably is.

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March 1, 2007 at 1:46 pm
(1) Susan says:

There remains within the realms of Christianity some who understand the greatness of God’s grace, who seek to do His will, who have abandoned former sinful desires, shameful lusts, and their depraved minds.
Perhaps the hypocrisy over the divorce and remarriage issue is related to the fact that many people who profess Christianity do not truly follow Christ. There have been and will always be hypocrites. They do not null and void the Word of God though, whether the sin issue is homosexuality or adultery or any other sin, such as gossip. The same God who commands the homosexual to repent (change of mind, heart, and direction) also commands the adulterer to stop sinning and the gossip to stop slandering.
I praise God that in His great mercy, He forgave me. I once was a sinner. Now, because of Him, I am redeemed.

July 16, 2008 at 8:46 pm
(2) Kevin says:

It is a shame when an atheist can see the plain Truth of the Word of God better than most Christians!

The Unadulterated Truth


October 24, 2011 at 11:27 am
(3) Jamie says:

Amen, it IS a shame brother Kevin. I agree with you.
Although, i didn’t understand the depth and/or purpose and beauty of marriage until Father “knocked me off my horse” about it. I had to experience it for myself first, then I saw what he was talking about (comparing marriage to Christ and the Church/called out ones). I guess Father has to show us sometimes…

September 22, 2008 at 10:49 pm
(4) LJ says:

It is amazing how many falsely “claim” to be christian and are active members in the church without batting an eye when it comes to divorce and pursuit of remarriage. But, they are not true to god… jesus sacrificed his life for us, we are to sacrifice our fleshly desires for him. Jesus clearly states over and over again in the bible and it is as clear as night and day that if a woman divorces her husband she is to remain single. If she remarries she committs adultery and the man who marries her also commits adultery. Likewise if a man divorces his wife and remarries he commits adultery.

The bible speaks clearly that adulterers will not enter the kingdom of god. Proverbs also teaches and issues severe warnings against the adulteress who preys on the very life of a man. Many warnings are issued for men not be enfatuated with the woman who has left her husband.. any man who does so will not obtain life.

It is all counterintuitive really, but either either you believe jesus and his calling for us to obey and be a slave to him or the world is your master. What is sad, is that divorce and remarriage in the church is statistically no different amongst non believers. That is a total heartbreaker.

February 2, 2010 at 8:12 pm
(5) Janet says:

I’ve been banging my head against the wall the last several years trying to inform family, friends and pastors what the Bible really says about divorce and remarriage. They keep telling me I’m wrong and that it is ok to remarry in the case of adultery. Jesus says in Matthew 19:11 that “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.”

Sadly, people in divorce and remarriage situations, especially “Christians”, are really blinded to the truth. They don’t want to accept it and they refuse to accept it. Instead, they prefer to sow to their flesh.

As for the exception clause, I’ve heard several theories about why it was there. The most interesting I heard had to do with King Henry VIII and Desiderius Erasmus. King Henry VIII wanted another wife, but the Catholic Church wouldn’t allow him to get divorced. Therefore, he formed the Protestant Church, so he could get a divorce. He was an ardent admirer of Desiderius Erasmus, a Catholic priest, who was an ardent proponet of divorce in the case of adultery. When Erasmus put together his Greek-Latin New Testament that our Bibles come from, he used 7 manuscripts, but only 3 of them contained the gospels. It was discovered that he deliberately added the Greek word ei (if) before mh (not) into Matt 19:9 and Matt 5:31-32, thus changing the text to read from “not” to “except”, despite the fact that the three manuscripts containing the gospels did not include it.

The original exception clause is supposed to read as “not even for fornication.” He changed it to “except for fornication”.

Various translations of the Bible changed the word fornication to adultery. Thus misleading people to believe that divorce and remarriage is ok in the case of adultery.

If people adhered to God’s Word regarding divorce and remarriage, we wouldn’t be fighting over gay marriages.

March 26, 2010 at 10:09 am
(6) tracieh says:

I think it is for the same reason Paul argued in Acts 15 that Gentile converts into Christianity should not have to convert to Judaism before converting to Christianity: It would simply be too hard on them, and if you make them really stick to the rules, you won’t get as many people to join. So, it’s OK to relax the regulations if enforcing them means restricting membership. Paul asked for a compromise instead–just have them keep to some of the Law, but not the parts that would be too difficult for them.

In both Acts 15 and 21, we see that Paul supported that Jewish Christians should continue to keep to the coventnant and maintain the Law, and even raise their children within it. He went to great length in Acts 21, to put to bed any false rumors that he was preaching that Jewish Christians did not need to keep the Law within Christianity and raise their children within it. He only argued that non-Jewish Christian converts should get a slight pass–in order to make it easier for them.

And I think liberal Churches today are simply following Paul’s example.

March 26, 2010 at 11:00 am
(7) P Smith says:

The religious spew “family values” but allow divorce for the same reason they spew Leviticus 18:22 and then ignore the rest of Leviticus, and why they want “religion in schools and government” yet they never live by them.

It’s called salad bar christianity because that’s exactly what it is: they pick out the parts they like and ignore the parts they don’t – especially when those rules apply to themselves.

March 26, 2010 at 9:37 pm
(8) Joseph says:

I guess this is one of those issues where conservative Christians know they just can’t win, no matter how much effort they throw into it. The public has embraced their personal liberties regarding marriage. They marry for love, not just procreation. They marry outside the confines of race. They marry outside the confines of social status. They no longer tolerate the marrying off of prepubescent girls to men decades their elder. Any attempts from outsiders to tell them how they can or can’t get married is an affront to their freedoms.

It’s just a shame they can’t see beyond their own selfish interests and extend the same gratitude to homosexuals.

March 27, 2010 at 12:10 pm
(9) Victoria says:

I was a born again Christian during the mid-70′s. The pop Chrisitian phrase was “I am not perfect, just forgiven.” God has forgiven them their sins. Unfortunately, from my experience it appears that this phrase has led many Christians to live a hypocrital life. They ‘sin’ – lie, cheat, gossip, commit adultery, ad nauseum – , but it is ok – because they are ‘forgiven’. All you have to do is ask God’s forgiveness and all is well in their little Christian world.

I have met very few Christians that I believe truely attempt to live in the path of Jesus. The rest seem to do whatever secular people do because they know they will be forgiven. That hypocrisy is one of many reasons I have become an atheist.

March 27, 2010 at 12:17 pm
(10) Victoria says:

When I was a born again Christian, I was told that I could not get divorced ( I was still single), I could not date someone who is divorced, and I was to give up ANYONE in my life who was not a born again Christian.

Sounds rather cultish to me. These same people are now getting divorces, their teenagers having babies, etc.

In one side of their mouth they say you cannot pick and choose what to believe from the Bible (I have been told that) and then they pick and choose what changes society wise that they should believe (divorce, adultery, etc. because they are “forgiven” !

April 2, 2010 at 5:05 pm
(11) Bob says:

I wonder if LJ really understands what he is asking of people. Take a hypothetical case. A young woman 20 years old marries a man 22. Two years later they realise they have made a big mistake probably through inexperience and immaturity. They aren’t really in love nor have the deep feelings needed to make a life long marriage. The man finds another partner and the marriage breaks up. According to biblical principles that woman who might live to 80 can never remarry, never have children, never enjoy a sexual relationship with another man. In not allowing people a second chance that principle is extremely harsh.

The fact that Christian divorce and remarriage is in line with the average for the population says it all. The biblical principle is impossible to observe.

April 5, 2010 at 7:33 am
(12) Seriadh says:

I realize that this only applies to remarrying and doesn’t deal with the divorce issue, but wasn’t there also scripture in the Old Testament that said a widow had to become her brother-in-law’s wife?

April 13, 2010 at 5:00 pm
(13) Lisa says:

I have always wondered if this isn’t one reason some women stay in abusive marriages. They don’t want to displease god or their church so they stay in a marriage where their safety is constantly threatened.

On the other hand, what is a woman supposed to do if the husband insists on a divorce? You can’t make someone stay if they don’t want to. The bible is full of hypocrisies like this.

And yes, I do believe there is a passage in the old testament about a widow marrying her brother-in-law.

April 21, 2010 at 10:03 am
(14) Marvin says:

“And yes, I do believe there is a passage in the old testament about a widow marrying her brother-in-law.”

I’ll try this again. My first just disappeared.

I believe the brother-in-law was supposed to provide an heir if none had been born at the time of the husband’s death. Related story: Onan’s “sin” was refusing to impregnate his dead brother’s wife, not masturbation.

August 13, 2010 at 6:16 pm
(15) Jason says:

Yes, I agree with this. Austin, you are correct in seeing hypocrocy in the church. The Bible warns of false teaching and the present humanistic teaching within the church on divorce and remarriage is one of the most destructive.
A great book that exposes the true historical and Biblical teaching on divorce and remarriage is ‘Divorce and Remarriage: The Trojan Horse Within the Church’ by Joseph Webb. You can find it here at:

October 15, 2010 at 2:23 am
(16) Julian says:

An annulment is not a divorce, it is a statement that the marriage was never valid, was based on a lie, or should never have taken place. It is like removing a senator from office because he was instated wrongly by lying about being qualified. Once a proper marriage has taken place there cannot be a divorce according to Christ himself. All churches that teach otherwise commit heresy. There are people obtaining annulments when they should not be given one, maybe by stating things that are not the truth.
The Catholic Church is the only true church of Christ, and it has no right to change prohibitions against divorce that Christ made himself. The Church has been entrusted with the Deposit of Faith and cannot change it according to the neccessity of the times. The Christian emphasis on sexual morality is due to the prevalence of it and the ability of it to wreck societies, families, childhood, and well being completely. All other issues are addressed as well, and more charity is done by the church then any other institution in the world. All protestant denominations used to adhere to the ban on contraception until the Lamberth Conference in 1930 when the Anglicans reduced the restrictions and the rest of the denominations followed suit.
Divorce is a serious issue and it was the slippery slope by which homosexual marriage can even be given consideration.

February 7, 2012 at 6:25 pm
(17) Bill Hare says:

Please do not assume that all Christians condone “the exception clause” and divorce and remarriage. Some have studied their way out of ‘Christendom’s” false teaching. A man(or woman) is bound to his/her mate for life. The Jewish or Pharisacical “exception clause’ that Jesus allowed for the betrothed was for persons living under the Old Law which Jesus lived under. If a Christian today thinks there is safe haven in Mt 5:32 and Mt 19:9 to divorce and remarry, you are trying to place yourself in a time dispensation that you are not a part of . You live in a Christian dispensation. Read the many times in the New Testament other words of Jesus and the complete counsel given by the Apostles Doctrine on the subject of MDR. Jesus said several things in the book of Matthew that applied only to a Jewish audience only. Read Rom 7:1-3, I Cor 7:10-11,39 and Acts 20:20,27.

February 4, 2013 at 6:39 pm
(18) jeff hildebrand says:

While those “Christians” who believe remarriage is a sin might be right, they have made it there religion and focus of life to tell the remarried they are doomed to hell for perpetual adultery. Unfortunately, they lack grace and mercy and have made a religion of the whole divorce dilema. They love to go fron site to site and tell everyone how remarriage is wrong, but never really reach out to anyone who is dealing with the issue. Christless and Pharisees of the first order, they will most likely burn on that last day for heaping burdens on the already oppressed and by exalting themselves as sinless in front of God.

February 4, 2013 at 7:53 pm
(19) manse says:

Perhaps because people just make it up as they go along, just like it was all made up by man in the first place? Bit like the creation of the CofE.

February 4, 2013 at 11:30 pm
(20) Victoria says:

Kris Humphries seems to be having a difficult time getting an annulment from Kim Kardashian, yet a couple of kennedys have gotten annulments despite being married for numeous years and procreating several children. Annulments by the Catholic church are handed out like candy if you have the correct notoriety.

February 5, 2013 at 2:38 pm
(21) ChuckA says:

[Jesus on the Cross (supposedly)]:
“Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do!…
Oh, WAIT!…they know not, BECAUSE you (and I, as your “only begotten son”…and the…erm…invisible “Holy Ghost”; that third part of the famed “Trinity Trio”)…right from the Garden of Eden ‘get-go’ and onward…NEVER wanted, or ALLOWED, any poor, born totally ignorant, human to have ANY certainty of knowledge…EVER! Ummm…on second thought…
Oh; but… I’ll be checking out Hell for three days; soon after I get off this friggin’ BS cross…just to say Hi to our old created buddy Satan & his faithful minions. I’ll be sure, of course, to extend your…infinitely loving congrats to everyone there.
And Peter? I can see your house from up here!” ;)
What’s that, Austin, and my fellow atheists?…
”Blaspheme away, Chuck!…of course, we’ll all be joining you there someday!…
NOT!!!” :shock:

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