That, at least, is the perspective of Danny Akin, vice president for academic administration and dean of the school of theology at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. It's also the perspective of many other conservative Christians. Baptist Press News quotes Danny Akin as saying:
“If you look at Ephesians closely,” Akin said, “there are actually more verses that relate to the role of the husband and his responsibility than ... the wife. My responsibility is not to make my wife submit to me. It is to love her as Christ loved the church. He died for the church. Do I love my wife that much? That is an awesome responsibility. I’m certain that few wives would have trouble submitting to their husband’s God-given leadership if they were loved like that.” ... Akin said wives could honor their husbands through their submission to his leadership and by their admiration of him as a godly man.
Five needs a husband has of his wife are: The need for her admiration and respect. The need for sexual fulfillment. The need for home support. The need for an attractive wife (“Ladies, this flows from your inner beauty.”). The need for you to be his best friend.
So, there you have it. It’s time women learned their place in the general order of things and get busy making themselves attractive for their husbands. According to Aiken, if you do that then your family will be happy and divorce-proof. You just have to make sure that you obey God!
Personally, I think that Danny Akin doesn't understand modern society. I don't know any women who would give up their independence and autonomy simply because a man is willing to die for them. True, it's good if a man is willing to sacrifice his life for his wife and children, but that can't be used as a club to guilt women into becoming subservient and second-class members of the marital relationship. If a man is unwilling to be a partner with his wife, as oppose to her leader, then his willingness to die for her doesn't mean as much.
I would also go on to say that the "five needs" which Danny Akin lists are not the needs which men today have. They may have been the most popular responses during the 1950s and 1960s, but they have become completely outdated in modern America. Today, men need women who can pull their own weight: emotionally, psychologically, and financially. Men need women who can be full partners in the marriage, who can be their own independent persons with their own lives, interests, and thoughts.
Quick Poll: Is marriage better when wives submit to the leadership of their husbands?
- Yes, male leadership is the natural order of things. Women can't lead in marriages or otherwise.
- No, a marriage should be a partnership of equals.
- I don't know.
- I don't care.
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