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How To Beat Your Wife

By April 2, 2004

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Are you a man interested in learning more about how best to beat your wife? Are you a woman who thinks that she could stand to be better corrected and disciplined by her husband? Well, have no fear - there are many, many Muslim clerics in the world who are anxious to help educate men about how to properly beat their wives in order to ensure marital bliss.

MEMRI has quite a lot of interesting information:

Sheikh Yousef Qaradhawi, one of the most influential clerics in Sunni Islam and head of the European Council for Fatwa and Research, has advocated non-painful wife-beating. In his 1984 book 'The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam,' he wrote: "If the husband senses that feelings of disobedience and rebelliousness are rising against him in his wife, he should try his best to rectify her attitude by kind words, gentle persuasion, and reasoning with her. If this is not helpful, he should sleep apart from her, trying to awaken her agreeable feminine nature so that serenity may be restored, and she may respond to him in a harmonious fashion. If this approach fails, it is permissible for him to beat her lightly with his hands, avoiding her face and other sensitive parts."
On the Al-Jazeera weekly program 'The Shar'ia and Life' of October 5, 1997, Al-Qaradhawi said: "Beating is permitted [to the man] in the most limited of cases, and only in a case when the wife rebels against her husband… The beating, of course, will not be with a whip, a stick, or a board. The beating will be according to what the Prophet said to a servant girl who annoyed him on a particular matter, 'If it were not for fear of punishment in the Hereafter, I would have beaten you with this miswak.'
According to the website of the embassy of Saudi Arabia's Islamic Affairs Department (IAD), wife-beating is permitted in accordance with Qur'anic verses and Hadiths used by the IAD to explain the rights a husband has over his wives: "The husband's rights on his wife are greater than hers over him." Another source states, "Men have a supervisory authority on account of the physical advantage they possess…" It is also stated, "When the husband calls his wife to his bed and she disobeys, and he spends the night in anger against her, the angels keep cursing her till the morning." In addition, "If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her," it is explained that "she will enter into Paradise."
Answering the question: "Does Islam allow wife-beating?" Dr. Muzammil H. Siddiqi, former president of the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA) stated: "[I]n some cases a husband may use some light disciplinary action in order to correct the moral infraction of his wife, but this is only applicable in extreme cases and it should be resorted to if one is sure it would improve the situation. However, if there is a fear that it might worsen the relationship or may wreak havoc on him or the family, then he should avoid it completely."

The article even has excerpts from an episode of a show on Saudi Arabia's Iqraa TV hosted by Jasem Muhammad Al-Mutawah, an "expert" on family matters in Islam. In this episode, Al-Mutawa discusses wife-beating while holding a 10-foot pool cue which apparently some couples keep in the home. So, because men are bigger and stronger than women, they have authority over the entire family. Because they have authority, they have a right to "correct" and "discipline" their wives, even physically, if they think it is necessary on account of their wife's "rebellion." Women, however, are not allowed to do the same - after all, they aren't the ones with authority. If their husband is "rebellious," they have to seek assistance from relatives.

All of this, of course, is supposed to be evidence that as a religion Islam gives women lots of rights they don't have in the West and that, in Islam, the position of women is superior to that found elsewhere.

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July 1, 2007 at 4:43 am
(1) Younes says:

You probably shouldn’t talk about things you cannot understand nor fully grasp.

No matter how good a translator may be, there IS definitely some kind of disortion involved. While some concepts stand fine, others get their meaning or accentuation altered. Unfortunately, religion related information DOESN’T stand well to the translation process: I’m muslim and I can tell you how much of a difference there is while hearing stuff in arabic and then in english, a lot of difference.

I hope that people can be more insightful and go over propaganda.

July 1, 2007 at 8:45 am
(2) tom says:

BS. Look either Islam condones men striking women, for whatever reason, to whatever extent, or it doesn’t.

If it does then “distortion” doesn’t even come into play at all.

It’s issues like this that make westerners think Islam, and it’s practitioners are barbaric.

November 16, 2007 at 4:34 pm
(3) derrick says:

i beat my wife, may i be of assisstance?

June 10, 2008 at 2:44 am
(4) Joseph says:

Well, I think what the poster of #2 means is that there are many words in the arabic language with a double meaning. Several passages or verses in the Qur’an may have a variety of different interpretations depending on context and the opinions of the interpreter. There are several documented examples of this.

Also, the Qur’an’s message is for humanity for all time periods from when it was initially revealed over 1400 years ago. Some think of it as a ‘living’ book, because as the literal text does not change over the ages, the message can be interpreted differently over the years. For example there are verses in the Qur’an that detail the process of human embroyonic development. These verses are written in simpler, metaphoric terms to explain to people 1400 years ago. As science progressed, we learned that the Qur’an offered deep insight and detail as to the process that science has now uncovered for us.

There are several articles documenting this link between science and the text, such as here:

Hope this helps.


July 30, 2009 at 5:45 am
(5) Fadim says:

There may indeed be areas of double meaning, but nevertheless this is not the case with regards to wife beating. It is highly unlikely that most authorities on islam distort or fabricate something. The fact is the for the major part agree that wife beating is allowed. The opinion on which they differ, is HOW.

The Quran stipulates clearly that a man can employ 3 steps in order to discipline a wife guilty of rabellious behaviour (the original arabic term can mean rebellion or immoral conduct or other). The verse 34 in question is from the Chapter of Women in the holy Quran. One should first stop communicating with her. Then one should cease to be intimate (ie. no marital sex), then one should beat. If she mends her ways, then nothing should be done of course.

Now as most muslims as well as non-muslims know, the Quran does not stand alone. The scholars constantly emphasize that hadith (traditions ascribed to the prophet Muhammad pbuh) are integral to understanding and studying the Quran and thus Islam.

The ahadith (classified SAHIH which means these are verified and authentic and can not be doubted) clearly stipulate that beating is ok but that one must not beat a woman in sensitive places and not the face. We also learn that the many quranic verses have ahadith to explain ´their revelation. Same applies to the verse which states beat.

All translations of every single acknowledged and accepted Quran clearly stipulates the word to mean BEAT. Are ALL these “scholars” and translators wrong? Or are they deliberately spearding propaganda while they are themselves muslims with a knowledge which far exceeds the knowledge of any normal believer? Have all these men of authority been wrong through 1300 years? Have all quran translations be that in english, urdu, farsi, turkish, swahili, spanish, german, french, thai, chinese and so on been wrong?

So unless the ahadith are removed from the equaltion, no different meanin than beat can be derived. And we are talking about more than one hadith. And these are readily available in Bukhari, Muslim and some others but Bukhari and Muslim are considered the most authentic in mainstream Islam (ahle Sunnah group). One of these verified hadith also state that no man will be asked as to why he beats his wife.

So in fact if anybody is distorting something here, it is the apologetics. The constant and usual standard claims that everybody else is just being islamophobic or spreading propaganda or just does not possesss the knowledge hail no credibility. So maybe poster 1 should not comment on things based solely on his personal preferences or views, but rather indulge in studying Islam in order to argue his point. Most muslims have not even studied the Quran or ahadith (multiple volumes) so it would seem infutile to then comment on something which is religiously justifiable albeit one does not need to beat ones wife. But the permissions is there with some restrictions in ahadith.

Just because somebody does not reach the same conclusion, does not invalidate their views. The author of this thread is only citing what muslim scholars throughout time have cited and agreed on. That would also explain why the quranic meaning in various translations can not be and is not changed, as clearly scholars can not just reject ahadith, tafsir and the ijma on this issue or else the same could be applied to many areas which would ultimately leave the door wide open to deviations and free interpretations.

October 21, 2009 at 2:05 pm
(6) Ovi invincible says:

Islam doesn`t allow beating of wife

LEARN to read

…How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may embrace (sleep with) her?… (Sahih Al-Bukhari,op.cit., vol.8.hadith 68,pp.42-43).

“…Do not retain them (i.e., your wives) to harm them…(The Noble Quran, 2:231)”

Arabic word “idribuhunna” for “beating” was used several times in the Noble Quran to mean “to go abroad” and to “leave” a place.

Misunderstood verse is 4:34
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women. because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) do not share their beds, (and last) “beat” (tap) them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is Most High, Great (above you all). (4:34)
The word beat or strike can mean leave

May 2, 2011 at 7:37 pm
(7) huzaifa says:

i believe there is a hadith where the prophet answered to beat them with a toothbrush, making light of the punishment

February 5, 2010 at 6:08 am
(8) Brad says:

Didn’t I beat you up in high school on a regular basis? If I didn’t, I should have.

March 4, 2010 at 11:39 pm
(9) jonny says:

if you let your woman run free they will leave teh kitchen
there fore keep her on a lead and you will have dinner ready every night
ps wat have you done wrong if your woman comes out of teh kitchen yelling at you?
you have made teh chain to long

June 15, 2011 at 3:42 pm
(10) Anonomous says:

I believe that everyone is equal and if you love you wife you should never hurt her no matter how small of a beating. If you can’t get along with your wife without hurting her than divorce her. Trying to domesticate and abuse someone is what your doing not putting your wife in her place. Try to have some mutual respect for your wife without women there are no men and the other way around we are equal. the creator of man is also the creator of women. We are all humans and when we start to single each other out we lose what little trust we have left. A great marriage is to know that when you come home and your wife makes you dinner or your husband it’s not because you beat them and dominate. It’s because they love you.

June 27, 2011 at 12:37 pm
(11) Bob Trent says:

“Christian” society until recently approved and encouraged a man to beat the women in his household; only for overt insubordination and rebellion, including laziness.
Only a brute would beat them so as to leave bruises that endured the next day, but it was believed that women, not owning anything themselves, could not be reliably controlled any other way if they did not respond favorably to kind treatment.
“A whip for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, and a rod for the back of fools.” — Proverb 26:3
By “beating” was not meant with severity, or anywhere but on the buttocks and the backs of the thighs. It is what today would be called “spanking,” “paddling” or “switching.” Never was her face to be struck, or her breasts, or her genitals.
Unfortunately too many instances of men beating their women as they might beat a male criminal have taken place, resulting in the overreaction of a total prohibition of corporal punishment of wives, and nearly so for children.
When you think about it, the state is much more severe against those who disobey its laws, codes, rules and regulations. Taking people’s property, which they acquired by their sweat, and imprisoning them is much harsher than administration of non-injurious beating.
We in the “Christian” world should not be too quick to condemn other cultures for doing what was approved in our cultures only a short time ago.

June 27, 2011 at 12:48 pm
(12) Bob Trent says:

The abovementioned tradition had begun to change as recently as the 18th century:

Source: William Blackstone. Commentaries on the Laws of England. Vol, 1 (1765), pages 442-445. Continued:

“But though our law in general considers man and wife as one person, yet there are some instances in which she is separately considered; as inferior to him, and acting by his compulsion. And therefore any deeds executed, and acts done, by her, during her coverture, are void; except it be a fine, or the like manner of record, in which case she must be solely and secretly examined, to learn if her act be voluntary. She cannot by will devise lands to her husband, unless under special circumstances; for at the time of making it she is supposed to be under his coercion. And in some felonies, and other inferior crimes, committed by her through constraint of her husband, the law excuses her: but this extends not to treason or murder.

June 27, 2011 at 12:49 pm
(13) Bob Trent says:

“The husband also, by the old law, might give his wife moderate correction. For, as he is to answer for her misbehaviour, the law thought it reasonable to intrust him with this power of restraining her, by domestic chastisement, in the same moderation that a man is allowed to correct his apprentices or children; for whom the master or parent is also liable in some cases to answer. But this power of correction was confined within reasonable bounds, and the husband was prohibited from using any violence to his wife, aliter quam ad virum, ex causa regiminis et castigationis uxoris suae, licite et rationabiliter pertinet. The civil law gave the husband the same, or a larger, authority over his wife: allowing him, for some misdemeanors, flagellis et fustibus acriter verberare uxorem; for others, only modicam castigationem adhibere. But with us, in the politer reign of Charles the second, this power of correction began to be doubted; and a wife may now have security of the peace against her husband; or, in return, a husband against his wife. Yet the lower rank of people, who were always fond of the old common law, still claim and exert their ancient privilege: and the courts of law will still permit a husband to restrain a wife of her liberty, in the case of any gross misbehaviour.

“These are the chief legal effects of marriage during the coverture; upon which we may observe, that even the disabilities which the wife lies under are for the most part intended for her protection and benefit: so great a favourite is the female sex of the laws of England.”

Source: William Blackstone. Commentaries on the Laws of England. Vol, 1 (1765), pages 442-445.

March 7, 2012 at 12:42 am
(14) Wife beater says:

What does this guy know about marriage or women. American men are best wrapped around their wives fingers. Women don’t respect American men and that’s why their always screwing around on them.

May 16, 2012 at 5:34 pm
(15) c.l.b says:

You really have to be joking and not funny. Obviously you haven’t read the qu’raan or hadiths. What you say is not Sunnah. In fact don’t take my word for it. Read the Fatwah “Porhibition of domestic violence in Islam” produced in 2009 by Sheik Kabbani and Dr. Ziad Phd.

Better still download it. Beating anyone is haram. Prophet PBUH advised a man who promised his wife he would beat her 100 times to gather 100 pieces of grass and tap her once with it. He himself was so angry with one of his wives he told he “I am so angry I would hit you with a tooth pick if I didn’t know Allah would hold me to account on the Day”.

Quite apart from the damage you are doing it is against the law in this country to incite violence of any kind on another. If any barrister wants to take you to court I would be willing to do so.

Ignorance of knowledge and manners is no excuse for infantile ranting and cruel remarks.. I notice your other items and they too are spoofs if they can be seen that way. Unfortunately this matter has ramifications of great harm. As a beaten women I deplore you.

May 29, 2012 at 6:09 am
(16) Grandpa_In_The_East says:

In the real world, it AIN’T happening. Get real.

Frankly, in the west, the Holy Bible is causing enough mischief. We don’t really need our minds further strambled by more Holy Books.


January 25, 2014 at 4:09 pm
(17) MIDGIE says:

How about your wife beats YOU, you sadistic pigs! derrick, your wife needs to super glue you member shut, and remind you that REAL men treat their wives with respect! this is disgusting, and ANY man that hits women, are disgusting and foul(None of you idiots bathe anyway, most are really gay,and you smell of a$$ and curry!) are a bunch of fools,and i would smash your head in while you were sleeping! MY FATHER taught me to be strong, and I promise you fools, I could kick everyone of your heads in, especially YOU DERRICK! Shame on you! Would you like seeing your mother beaten?Your daughters?Women are to be loved and cherished,but since most of you are gay and can not come out in your society, you take it out on your wife, who is merely a slave for you to rape when you want sex, and keep her living in fear, I hope to run into one of you on the street one day so I can show you how a REAL woman can kick the crap out of you women beaters(oh, I bet you guys are the people who kill daughters and beat your wives if they do not give you a son,when you are the ones shooting out females you idots!

January 25, 2014 at 4:12 pm
(18) midge says:

Never seen such stupidity in my life, you are really gay and just rape and beat your wives into being slaves for you.I wish I could run into one of you guys so I could give you the beating of a life time you morons! women are to be loved and cherished, you people are absolutely insane,and one day, your wife will brain you in your sleep, and she will have peace!

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